1. Do not get married. It is a lifelong commitment, not only to the spouse but also to the kids. Especially, the Indian male should avoid marriage because here in India, many laws are very much against Men.
2. If you still wanna get married, get three Kundlis checked.
3. FINANCIAL KUNDLI. See what property is owned by the Boy/Girl, what is the salary/monthly income of the Boy/Girl, and how many loans have been taken by the Boy/Girl? For that, ask for the property record and CIBIL report, etc. Check the original property documents/possession to determine that the property is not mortgaged or pledged in a court for someone's bail.
4. MEDICAL KUNDLI. Get an exhaustive report of Boy/Girl to find out the health status of Boy/Girl. Thus STD's (sexually transmissible diseases), Thalassemia etc. might be avoided in the would-be family.
5. SOCIAL KUNDLI. Check whether any criminal/civil court cases are pending against the boy or girl, whether they are pre-married, and whether they have a bad image in society. Check it.
6. And concentrate more upon the Kundlies of the Boy/Girl than that of their families. The families may be rich, but the Boy may be poor; there might be nothing in the boy's name. The families might have a bad social record, but the Girl may have a very bright record.
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ReplyDeleteआपके ब्लॉग ने शादी जैसे बड़े फैसले को समझदारी और सतर्कता से लेने की ज़रूरत को बखूबी उजागर किया है। 'तीन कुंडली'—Financial, Medical और Social—का विचार वाकई प्रैक्टिकल और आज के समय में बेहद ज़रूरी है।
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